As a woman and independent escort, I often find myself reflecting on the dynamic between men and women, not just from the lens of provider and client, but from the broader societal context of emotional and social exchange. In the realm of modern relationships, conversations about how men and women interact are evolving rapidly — yet the sentiments expressed seem to be regressing. Recently, I came across a series of frustrations expressed by other escorts that compelled me to offer a different perspective.

More Than Meets the Eye

There is a belief that’s gained traction in certain circles: that men lack the emotional intelligence, attunement, or skills to engage meaningfully with women. This idea sometimes comes with the belief that men cannot reciprocate the depth of emotional labor that women provide. While there are certainly men who may struggle with vulnerability or emotional expression due to societal conditioning, this generalization risks overlooking the emotional complexities that men possess.

Men are often raised in cultures that prize stoicism and suppress men’s natural emotional responses. However, in my experience, when given the space and opportunity, men can and do offer deep emotional vulnerability. There is nothing inherently lacking in men’s ability to connect on an emotional level, though it may look different from how women connect with one another.

Rather than assuming men can’t meet us emotionally, it might be more empowering to create environments where men are encouraged to explore and express their feelings, and in turn, offer support, compassion, and insight. Emotional intelligence in men isn’t an all-or-nothing trait — it’s something that can be nurtured through open dialogue, patience, and mutual respect. Ultimately, it’s about cultivating an environment in a session that allows him to feel safe, something to which every escort offering the girlfriend experience should already be aspiring.

The “Energy Imbalance” Concept

The concept of “energy imbalance” in relationships, especially the notion that women often provide emotional depth and nurturing, while men don’t reciprocate in kind, is another perspective worth examining. While it’s true that some interaction can feel one-sided, it’s essential to recognize that true reciprocity is built on understanding and effort from both parties.

In any relationship, including professional, there are imbalances from time to time. I’ve personally found that the value men bring goes far beyond material exchanges. When we lean into honest, vulnerable conversations, men often offer insights that I wouldn’t have received from a woman, simply because their perspective is different. They contribute in ways that complement and enrich my understanding of the world and myself.

It’s undeniable that the feminine energy brings a certain depth to emotional interactions that can be deeply healing; that’s one of the major reasons clients hire escorts, after all. Women, in many cases, are more attuned to emotional subtleties and can provide nurturing environments for those who need support. However, the idea that men are enlivened solely by the feminine and that they cannot offer similar depth or attunement in return feels like a limitation of their potential.

There needs to be a growing understanding that the empathy, softness, and nurturing we associate with feminine energy are not inherently exclusive to women. Men, too, possess these qualities. And while women often seek other women for emotional solace and support, men also have the capacity to heal, listen, and offer depth to others in ways that matter. Men’s emotional support may look different, but it is no less valuable. 

A Call for Mutual Respect and Understanding

Rather than focusing on what men “can’t” offer, we can choose to nurture environments where both men and women can give and receive freely, without the expectation or societal pressure. This requires a mutual understanding of each other’s emotional needs and an openness to evolving beyond old patterns of gendered expectations. 

The notion that men only offer their money or that they lack emotional depth is limiting. Men, like women, are capable of offering far more. The best relationships — whether personal or professional — are those in which both parties come to the table with respect, vulnerability, and a willingness to give and receive in ways that are meaningful to both.

Let’s move toward a world where we appreciate men as equals who bring their own unique, valuable energy to the relationships we share. The emotional and social value of men in society is far-reaching, and it’s time we celebrate it fully.